Sexual Health
January 17th, 2009
We suggest a minimum of two other men and a maximum of seven. You can be the group facilitator. We suggest two guidelines. First, try to be as honest, clear, and specifi c as possible about sexual attitudes, experiences, and feelings. Second, no one-upping, bragging stories, and no put-downs of other group members or women. Here are some suggested topics/questions: How did you learn about sex as a child? Who talked to you? What did you learn? If no one talked to you, where did you get sex information? Whether from parents, school, church, or friends, what was your best, most helpful sex education experience? When did you fi rst experience orgasm/ejaculation? Nocturnal emission (“wet dream”), masturbation, partner sex, or fooling around with other boys? Was it a positive or anxiety-provoking experience? When did you fi rst hear about couple (marital) sex? Did it excite or repel you?
What was your fi rst contact with pornography—Playboy, Internet, or sex stories? Was it exciting, shameful, erotic, guilt-inducing? How old were you at your fi rst partner sexual experience? Was it with a girlfriend, hook-up, prostitute? Did it involve manual or oral sex, rubbing, or intercourse? Was it a good or bad experience? How did you react to negative sexual experiences—contracting an STD, getting a woman pregnant, being sexually abused, being sexually humiliated, being rejected, getting caught masturbating, having an unsuccessful fi rst intercourse? Did you deny it happened, lie about it, or tell no one? In retrospect, how has this negative experience(s) aff ected you sexually? What was your most positive premarital sexual experience? What was the quality of the relationship and the quality of the sex? What were your most positive learnings from this relationship about yourself, women, and sex?
